Replying to Wedding Invites Made Simple

Got an envelope with beautiful calligraphy and a deadline staring at you? No need to stress. Sending a clear RSVP is just a few minutes of your time if you follow a few easy rules.

When and How to Send Your RSVP

Mark the RSVP date on your calendar the moment you open the invite. Aim to reply at least two weeks before the deadline—this gives the couple enough time to confirm numbers with the venue and caterer. If you’re emailing, reply to the address provided and keep the subject line simple, like “RSVP – Jane & Tom”. If it’s a paper card, write legibly, stamp it, and drop it in the mail as soon as possible.

What to Say (and What Not to Say)

Start with a warm line: “We’re thrilled to celebrate with you!” Then clearly state “Accepts with pleasure” or “Regrets we cannot attend”. If you’re bringing a guest, use the exact wording on the card—something like “+1” or the guest’s full name. Avoid vague answers such as “maybe” or “we’ll see”. If you need to change your answer later, let the couple know ASAP, preferably by the same method you used originally.

When the invitation lists a plus‑one option, only bring a guest if the card specifically says you may. Bringing an extra person without permission can cause seating headaches and extra costs. If you’re unsure, a quick text or email asking “Can I bring a guest?” is perfectly acceptable.

Special dietary needs or mobility issues should be noted in the RSVP. Keep it short: “We have a gluten‑free requirement” or “One of us uses a wheelchair”. This helps the couple plan food and seating without having to chase you later.

Finally, thank the couple for the invite. A simple “Thank you for including us – we can’t wait!” adds a friendly touch and shows you appreciate their effort. Your RSVP is now complete, and you’ve helped them stay organized for their big day.