Best Man Guide: What to Do, Say, and Wear on the Wedding Day
Being asked to be a best man feels like a big honor – and a bit of pressure. You’ve got a few weeks to sort out the outfit, plan a speech, and support the groom. Below you’ll find the core tasks broken down, plus some handy shortcuts so you don’t feel overwhelmed.
Key Responsibilities Before the Wedding
First up, get clear on the groom’s expectations. Some guys want you to handle the bachelor party, others just need a hand with the rings or the timeline. Put together a simple checklist:
- Rings & paperwork: Keep the wedding bands safe, double‑check the marriage license is signed, and have a backup plan if anything goes missing.
- Bachelor party: Choose a vibe the groom likes – a low‑key drinks night or an adventure day – and lock in a date early.
- Logistics: Confirm transportation, help the groom pick a suit, and be the go‑to person for any vendor questions on the day.
Communicate early and often. A quick text every few days keeps everything on track and shows you’ve got it under control.
Crafting a Speech That Feels Real
The speech is the part most people stress about. Keep it short, personal, and genuine. Here’s a three‑step formula:
- Start with a story: Pick a memory that shows the groom’s character – funny, heartfelt, or a mix.
- Connect to the bride: Mention why you think they’re perfect for each other. A single line works; no need for a novel.
- Wrap up with a toast: End with a simple wish – “May your life be as happy as today” – and raise your glass.
Practice once a day for a week. Recording yourself on your phone helps you catch awkward pauses and adjust the pacing.
Outfit Essentials for the Best Man
Most grooms want the best man to match the wedding’s dress code. If the suit is already chosen, focus on the details:
- Tie or bow tie: Coordinate the color with the groom’s accessories. A subtle pattern works well.
- Dress shoes: Polished Oxfords or loafers; break them in before the big day to avoid blisters.
- Accessories: Pocket square, cufflinks, and a watch add polish without stealing the spotlight.
Fit is everything. Schedule a quick tailoring session a month before the wedding – a small adjustment makes a huge difference.
Choosing a Thoughtful Gift for the Groom
A best man gift doesn’t have to be expensive, but it should feel personal. Some ideas that go over well:
- Engraved leather wallet or watch box.
- Custom whiskey set with the groom’s initials.
- Tickets to a sports event or concert you’ll enjoy together after the wedding.
Wrap it nicely and slip it into a card with a short note. The gesture shows you appreciate the friendship.
Day‑Of Checklist – Stay Calm and Help Out
On the wedding day, your main job is to be the groom’s right hand. Keep this quick list in your pocket:
- Check the rings are in your pocket.
- Make sure the groom has his shoes, cufflinks, and any vows.
- Help coordinate the groomsmen for photos.
- Be ready to handle any small hiccup – a misplaced boutonniere or a missing charger.
- After the ceremony, grab the best man’s speech notes and head to the reception stage.
Stay relaxed, smile, and enjoy the moment. If you’re calm, the groom will feel the same.
Being a best man is about support, not perfection. Follow the checklist, keep the speech heartfelt, and dress sharp – you’ll do great, and the couple will thank you for it.
